What a sweet night of discussing our marriages, successes and disasters, and how to seek to better meet the emotional and spiritual needs of our husbands (or soon-to-be husbands). I’m so edified by our time together and very much glean new and purposeful insight into my own marriage husband as I listen to each of your share. We had such great conversation, we didn’t even make it through half of the planned topics!
In review, we mostly discussed the following verses from Proverbs 31 and what they look like in context for us as wives, with our husbands, and for their sake.
12 She brings him good, not harm,
all the days of her life.
**We shared specifically what some specific ways are in which we “harm” our husbands intentionally. What good feedback everyone shared. Sometimes we’re not even being malicious, we just don’t think before we speak or think before we do something at a time that may not be appropriate for him or well-received.
**Then we also discussed what some ways are in which we could do “good” to our husbands! What a delightful and heart-warming decision it is to resolute that we’re going to seek some ways to be good to him. It takes some intentional effort to make sure we’re doing good to the ones around us.
**Then we talked about the conviction of “ALL the days of her life”. Not just when we’ve had a good day, feel well, etc. All the days. Praying to keep that one in the forefront of my heart and mind.
26 She speaks with wisdom,
and faithful instruction is on her tongue.
27 She watches over the affairs of her household
and does not eat the bread of idleness.
28 Her children arise and call her blessed;
her husband also, and he praises her:
29 “Many women do noble things,
but you surpass them all.”
***We really walked through these verses and thought through what they mean for us, what they meant in context, and where to go from here in working them out in our own hearts and relationship.
I left our time together feeling refreshed, motivated, and eager to hear my husband arise and call me blessed. I was encouraged to know and remember that my children are already calling me blessed, it just comes in moments and in ways that are specific to my heart’s needs and my children’s abilities to communicate. It comes in ways that are specific to my heart’s needs because it is the Lord sending me those moments and knows exactly how to speak directly to my heart. I want to surpass them all, but mostly I want to surpass myself…..because I always want to grow and move forward. I want to grow, be better, and be changed. Our lives are a marathon. Not a sprint. Let’s move with grace through this marathon and throw away the words “failure” and “disappointment”. Each outcome that isn’t what we expected or prefer, those are outcomes meant for growth and change. They are meant to spur us into a women who “watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness.”
I’m praying for you all this week. I’ll miss you so very much next week as we head to the Mayo Clinic. Thank you for praying for us! I know you will have a wonderful time with Kathy & Anne! Same place, same time! Love you ladies!